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Post by ezzinomilonga on Jun 9, 2020 16:38:31 GMT -5
Hi Andi.
I din't know you, but i'm deeply sorry for your wife and for you.
On my family, breast cancer is a beast that periodically seems to hit someone..on these last months is the turn of my aunt, my mom's sister..so i know of what you talk about.
And of course your wife has a long, tough and really painful (especially psichologically) fight to deal with, but with the correct treatment and a bit of luck, with her strenght and your support she'll win.
All the beautiful guys here already told you everything could be useful or helpful to know or to do in these case. Of course you're not useless at all..but you well know that sometime for your wife you'll be also her only possibility to release her frustration and these moments, for absurd, could be the most important for her. So..be patient.
In these months my aunt was used to call me at phone at every time of day or night..talking and crying about..everything randomically. But she found her way to find strenght in her faith in God..something i probably can't understand totally, but it helped her a lot so...who am i to question it.
A little practice thing you could do..and i know is a really little thing, just a detail, but especially for a woman it can be really important..beacuse is something that could make her feel a lot worst, is the issue with the loss of hairs.
I don't know what she want to do, if you already are facing the problem together, but if i could give to you a little advice, convince her to cut her hairs very short, immediately, then go to buy a certain humber of wigs. Nice, coloured charming wigs. Find a way to propose the whole thing as some kind of game, a way to change her look. To make feel her always pretty and nice.
If she can find a way to feel comfortable with herself everywhere, especially when she'll be out of home,it could help her really a lot.
When the nausea will seem could almost kill her, in the days shortly after the therapy, all these little details could help her to don't fall in desperation.
Stay strong..be patient. I hope for you both all the luck is possible.
A hug.
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Post by 15eicheltower9 on Jun 10, 2020 18:42:03 GMT -5
Gonna just put this out there. Haven't read the whole thread but want to say, I haven't been that close to anyone with cancer (just aquintansces) but with depression.... i've been there. Will be for the rest of my life. If you want to talk to anyone that's been to every state of depression, shoot me a pm. I'll give you my number, an ear, and as much advice as I can. That goes for anyone here.
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Post by SMIFFYLFC79 on Jun 14, 2020 2:03:41 GMT -5
Hi all, thanks for the continued messages of support.  We now have a date for the 1st chemo, its Friday 19th June. Sadly the cancer has spread along her lymph nodes to under her collar bone but treatment is the same. Mentally she is doing ok, so proud, but the thought of losing her hair is getting her down, we have ordered some bandanas that she liked the look of, we also looked at wigs on amazon, again which she also liked the look of, but we did laugh, because the wigs are called 'SMIFFYS WIGS'  Thanks all again, i hope you and families are all safe and well. |
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Post by PointedMarlin on Jun 21, 2020 11:30:27 GMT -5
Hi Andy,
Hope everything went ok Friday.
I’ve not logged in here in probably going on 3 years but this thread caught my attention & wanted to pass on my best wishes. Cancer has affected my family three times that I know of. I lost my old man to it at the tender age of 52 on 10th March at 10.30 pm in 2003. But on a brighter note my father in law beat liver cancer a couple of years back in his 70’s & my wife’s aunt beat Brest cancer - she’s in her 50’s so as others have said medicine is fighting the fight.
Trust your as well as can be expected & YNWA
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Post by SMIFFYLFC79 on Jun 22, 2020 0:18:55 GMT -5
Friday was supposed to be 1st treatment but unfortunately my wifes veins decided that they wasn't going to play ball what so ever, bless her and the poor nurses, they tried every which way they could to find a suitable one but to no avail. Back tomorrow (Tuesday) to have a picc line fitted (which will stay in throughout chemo treatment) and to get first treatment done. |
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Post by rcknfrewld on Jun 26, 2020 17:54:39 GMT -5
Robin (on Howard Stern show) survived life threatening cancer awhile ago and said the most important thing for her was having an advocate. Someone who always supported her and stood up for her with the doctors to make sure they understood what she wanted. That person was a doctor friend who could make sense of all the medical jargon/jumbo whenever she had questions. And of course attitude.
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Post by rcknfrewld on Jun 26, 2020 18:15:38 GMT -5
Actually the doctor friend Dr. David Agus was on Howard Stern a week or so ago and gave out his phone number because he sends regular text updates on COVID-19. I found the number. (310) 299-9322. It’s a worth a shot. You never know.
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Post by nevadaballin on Jul 25, 2020 0:38:31 GMT -5
Friday was supposed to be 1st treatment but unfortunately my wifes veins decided that they wasn't going to play ball what so ever, bless her and the poor nurses, they tried every which way they could to find a suitable one but to no avail. Back tomorrow (Tuesday) to have a picc line fitted (which will stay in throughout chemo treatment) and to get first treatment done. Hey bud, I hope your wife is doing well. I was diagnosed with cancer in my right lung this morning so I join her in this war against this evil disease. We will fight the good fight together:) |
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Post by Irving R. Levine on Jul 25, 2020 17:19:48 GMT -5
God, I f***ing hate cancer.
Praying for you guys.
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Post by SMIFFYLFC79 on Jul 26, 2020 0:19:49 GMT -5
nevadaballin Jimmy i'm so sorry to hear your news buddy, thoughts and prayers being shared between you and your family and my wife. Don't know what to say buddy 
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Post by joegolferg on Jul 28, 2020 5:41:06 GMT -5
Friday was supposed to be 1st treatment but unfortunately my wifes veins decided that they wasn't going to play ball what so ever, bless her and the poor nurses, they tried every which way they could to find a suitable one but to no avail. Back tomorrow (Tuesday) to have a picc line fitted (which will stay in throughout chemo treatment) and to get first treatment done. Hey bud, I hope your wife is doing well. I was diagnosed with cancer in my right lung this morning so I join her in this war against this evil disease. We will fight the good fight together:) All the best, Jimmy. |
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Post by SMIFFYLFC79 on Aug 3, 2020 1:41:49 GMT -5
*Update* Nothing really to report, hospital trips each week, picc line clean and the bloods and assessment. 3rd rd of Chemo tomorrow, its starting to have an effect now, my wife is feeling more and more tired as the day's pass, her mental health is still my biggest concern, she keeps putting on this brave face, but i know its all a front, i'll admit i sat and broke down the other day, just started crying from no where, felt better afterwards though, much needed release i guess to carry on this horrid journey with her. Jimmy, how you doing buddy? Take care all and thanks again for your continued support. |
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Post by nevadaballin on Aug 3, 2020 12:53:30 GMT -5
*Update* Nothing really to report, hospital trips each week, picc line clean and the bloods and assessment. 3rd rd of Chemo tomorrow, its starting to have an effect now, my wife is feeling more and more tired as the day's pass, her mental health is still my biggest concern, she keeps putting on this brave face, but i know its all a front, i'll admit i sat and broke down the other day, just started crying from no where, felt better afterwards though, much needed release i guess to carry on this horrid journey with her. Jimmy, how you doing buddy? Take care all and thanks again for your continued support. I hope the treatments have a positive result on the cancer for her. I’m getting ready for my journey thru this. The pulmonologist said I’m stage 2 but possibly stage 3 and appears malignant. But not his area of expertise so he left that for the oncologist. I expect I’ll have that first appointment this week but it isn’t scheduled yet. I do intend on getting a second opinion simply because I should. I doubt it will have a different result but maybe other treatment options. I still have more questions than answers. Wife and I have both signed up for some mental health. The crying worked us for a little bit as a little release valve like you said but too many adversity battles for us over the past couple of years. It’s too heavy at times. Our best to you and your family. Keep fighting for the win. Our thoughts are with you also. Much love man. |
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Post by ezzinomilonga on Aug 10, 2020 1:35:26 GMT -5
*Update* Nothing really to report, hospital trips each week, picc line clean and the bloods and assessment. 3rd rd of Chemo tomorrow, its starting to have an effect now, my wife is feeling more and more tired as the day's pass, her mental health is still my biggest concern, she keeps putting on this brave face, but i know its all a front, i'll admit i sat and broke down the other day, just started crying from no where, felt better afterwards though, much needed release i guess to carry on this horrid journey with her. Jimmy, how you doing buddy? Take care all and thanks again for your continued support. Don't worry, to break down is normal. And is also healthy. Without this, to carry on without going mad would be so much harder.. My aunt too, she faced everything with great courage and with such an attitude that sometimes could seem also weird, cause she acted and talked, sometimes, as if she was not the one involved, but just someone else. And partially is just a mask, of course, but i believe often women have a certain kind of strenght that allows them to fight and face and go through and beyond terrible difficulties in such a way that we, as men, just don't know. Probably..much forward she goes with chemio, the worst will be the side effects on her, even cause the knowledge of what she must to fight everytime, i think is really hard to deal with..but she will face and fight everything..and you will be there when her mask will fall. It will happens, but together you'll pass over all this. Take care. |
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Post by nantez88 on Aug 29, 2020 22:00:10 GMT -5
So sorry to hear this Smiffy,I can't even imagine to comprehend how you are feeling. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and hope she makes a full recovery. if you feel like talking send me a message on WhatsApp.
I would have text you sooner but I haven't been on this forum in over a year. Love ya mate
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